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Tuesday, November 2, 2010
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11:04 PM
Well, it's been some time since I really blog about something wow. Been so lazy and tired to blog, cause no one really reads my blog anyway. Hmm, let's see. Where shall I start?
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Alright, I shall take it from here. Let me ask, how many of you out there really like yourself? You like yourself for who you are. You like your strengths. You like your weaknesses. You just like everything about you. Out of 100 people, majority will find faults with themselves. There may be, or may not be that someone, who accept everything about themself. Well, the reason is obvious. Sub-consciously, people are always comparing with others. This "die also must compare" attitude is rooted deeply in all humans. However, there may be some who choose to direct their attention and energy on something else. Allow me to explain with a real life example. Things might get clearer then. Girls are constantly comparing everything about them with other girls. May it be looks, figure or the number of boyfriends. They just couldn't stop comparing. Students are constantly comparing results. Even if it's just a small test, they must compare the marks. (Lol! If not, they might just die on the spot!) I'm not being riduculous. I'm stating a fact which everyone knows. You must be wondering. Why the heck am I talking about all these comparing and stuff. Well, I'm just trying to say that the root of all these "comparing" is inferiority. This is what I feel. I feel that people start comparing because they feel inferior in certain ways. That's why they wanna compare something they are good at with others. Realise something? Even before others look down on them, they condemn themsleves first. If not, inferior complex wouldn't even exist yea?
Today, I was talking to my friend about going to clubs. I then casually made a remark that whether going with her to different clubs will make a difference cause I don't feel high at all. I want to dance at the podium but when I ask her along, she just decline. And I said that I don't see the point why when the podium is empty, she doesn't want to go up with me but when the podium is packed like sardine, she wants to go up. I added that the floor is already so packed so dancing at the podium will give us more space. From what I had said, there wasn't any hidden message or anything that is sacarstic. However, my friend took what I said so negatively and started to be so defensive. She said that she didn't dare to go up to the podium cause she didn't want people to look at her. She only want to go up when there are other people to hide her. I'm not as fat as her so I can go up and dance. Look, this is inferior complex. Maybe to her, being fat is an embarrassment. Hey you, I got to tell you. Being fat is not a sin yea? You don't have to bother about what others think of you. You should always listen with an open heart and mind. If it's criticism, accept it positively. In this way, you can improve. Life will be miserable if you are so pessimistic. Everything also 看不开。何必跟自己过不去？
And, if you didn't realise, I'm telling you now. You have the tendancy to lose your temper at the someone whom you feel is suan-ning you. Like today, you damaged the cake by accident and I just "OMG". You got so defensive and was like “你 OMG 什么？Just blowtorch 就可以了what. ” Hello? I wasn't even saying anything negative about you yea? It's just a normal reaction that I will "OMG". Why must you be so defensive? And, when I told you not to feel inferior and stuff, you immediately went “你很肥可是有人跟你跳舞，跟你拿号码。我没有嘞！”Well，this is a personal insult but I didn't flare up right? I know that I'm fat. So? It ain't a sin. It's inner beauty that attracts people. As I'd told you before, wisdom and knowledge is something that will last. Beauty doesn't last, unless you go for plastic surgery. You can't deny the fact that there are people trying to know you at the clubs. It's you, who push them off. You get so defensive and push guys off when they try to know you and now you are telling me that the guys look down on you that's why no one come to dance with you? Hello, what are you saying man? It totally makes no sense to me. You fend people off yet you want people to come and make friends with you? Wtshit is that man?
You may say, it's because of my personality that I can take things easily. Well, this may be true but most importantly, I love myself! I love everything about myself! Absolutely everything! There may be some things that I'm dissatisfied but I dont' give myself up. Either I improve on it, or just accept it. I accepted the fact that I have a heavy bottom. So what if I have gigantic tighs? It won't affect my life that much. Afterall, it's my tighs. Who cares about what others say? They ain't perfect too. If they can find flaws in me, I believe that I can find more flaws in them.
Lastly, I want to apologise if you seriously think that I am suan-ning you. I have to say that I am not suan-ning you but if you feel it that way, there's nothing I can do besides apologising. Learn to be more positive, and not over defensive. Yours is an case of over-defensiveness. Even if I'm not talking about you, you assume that I am talking about you cause you see the same faults in yourself and get so defensive. This isn't the way really.
Life will be better if you love yourself! :D
you're MINE!
